Finding the love of your life

FINDING THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE You Make Me Crazy – Part 5 Rick Warren LIVE 6 pm, June 24, 2012 “The righteous chooses his friends carefully.” Prov. 12:26 (ESV) CORRECTING 2 MYTHS • God doesn't choose my mate for me! -He placed that responsibility on me -wait and not date is wrong • There isn't only one "right person" for me! • Love alone is not enough reason to marry! -Love is a choice -Given the right situation you can fall in love God doesn't tell you who you are going to marry but He does tell you the right kind you can marry. “MUST HAVES” 1. WE MUST HAVE spiritual unity -We believe the same thing about God -God have to be the center, the glue. -God designed marriage to be a three legged stood “Stop forming inappropriate relationships with unbelievers. Can right and wrong be partners? Can light have anything in common with darkness?… Can a believer share life with an unbeliever?” 2 Cor. 6:14-15 (GW) “Do not unite yourself with an unbeliever; they are not fit mates for you.” 2 Cor. 6:14 (NEB) Don't commit to somebody who is not committed to Jesus Christ. “I want us to help each other with the faith we have. Your faith will help me, and my faith will help you.” Rom. 1:12 (NCV) How can one of you help the other if one have no faith 2. WE MUST HAVE life purpose compatibility -same purpose, same direction -your not ready to marry till you know the purpose of your life “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” Amos 3:3 (NLT) “For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Eph. 2:10 (NIV) “Each of you has received a gift from God for serving others. Now you must be faithful to develop and use that gracious gift from God!” 1 Peter 4:10 (NCV) “Brothers and sisters, you are holy partners in a heavenly calling.” Heb. 3:1a (GW) The purpose of marriage is to make you more effective in your purpose. If your purpose is hindered by the relationship then it is not the right one for you. A bad marriage is worse than being single 3. WE MUST BOTH BE emotionally healthy -But not wait till your perfect but healthy because we are all broken A PARTIAL CHECKLIST OF EMOTIONAL HEALTH • No uncontrolled anger! -It reveals low self control and low self worth “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man! Do not associate with one easily angered.” Prov. 22:24 (NIV) • No addictions! “Don't associate with people who drink too much, or stuff themselves with food.” Prov. 23:20 (TEV) • No bitterness! -Whatever you resent, you begin to represent -What you resist, persists “Make sure you all have experienced the grace of God so that bitterness doesn't take root and grow, because that causes much trouble and will corrupt you.” Hebrews 12:15 “If you curse your father or mother, the lamp of your life will be snuffed out. “ Prov. 20:20 (NLT) -You will miss on what God intended • Not selfish! -Conflicts comes because of selfishness “Selfish people cause trouble.” Prov. 28:25 “People who do not get along with others are only interested in themselves; they will disagree with what everyone else knows is right.” Prov. 18:1 (TEV) • Not greedy_ “A greedy man brings trouble to his family.” Prov. 15:27 “Don't eat at the table of a stingy person.” Prov. 23:6 (TEV) • Generous and kind “A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.” Prov. 11:25 (NIV) “A kindhearted woman gains respect... and a kind man benefits himself, but a cruel people brings trouble on themselves.” Prov. 11:17 • Tells the truth “A righteous person lives on the basis of his integrity. His children will be blessed, even after he is gone.” Prov. 20:7 God gives the best to him who leaves the rest to Him Marriage doesn't create problems, it reveals them. ENDING A DEAD-END DATING RELATIONSHIP “In the end, people appreciate frankness more than flattery.” Pr. 28:23 (NLT)